Has always taught us to be independent. Taught us not give up. Taught us to be on our minds. Taught us to follow our parents' expectations. Educational excellence, to stand out among other children. Explain to us think we proceed in life. Succeed. Taught us to be the best in every field. Explained to us that competition is good and healthy. We adore the first company, the successful the strongest. So this sport, so it casts its light over our lives.
Each cultivated his ego. The ego feels, rightly or unfairly, he was responsible for the development of the human subject. Can not only strong, successful, best of all. Competitiveness, desire for excellence, persistence and receiving what you want and we have to yourself is a product of our society which we live today.
Did not teach us to share. Taught us to take all possible. Did not teach us to give. Taught us our desire (mine) is the most important and right. The desire of the other is not important, does not count, does not exist. My ego is the only one around.
Think about it? When seen or conscious person, every person you thought he was good of you, you wise, smart of you, than you should be with a woman.'s Always in the denial, the reasons, the reason why I deserve more. Why am I clever / smart / successful other. This mechanism protects us. "If I am not me, who I" is an expression of our reality and fold profit in it the essence of the ego. Of ourselves.
What happens when ego meets another ego? Another in a relationship should be collaborative? Designed for two, not just one. System where your will, your requirements are not only two of your own. A couple that you appreciate your partner as much by yourself. System of education we received contrary. Education merge into us. What has become "second nature" our.
Suddenly you're in a non competitive. You do not need to impress the other, not competing in it, not contrary to it. A system where two mutually appreciate each other. Work together and enjoy more sense to give than to sense reception.
There is no magic solutions. I just do not. Way I could have bid to ensure a good marriage. Marriage is a decision where there is no room for ego. Decision open relationship partner's wishes are open at least your own wishes. A place where tranquility is the essence and "being right and proper and wise". A place where you give your ego a rest. Give yourself a rest. Depositor yourself by the other. A place of serenity you alone, where the spin of fear and doubt be available in our lives constantly. Place of real joy arising from parity.
A place of pure happiness independent of your ego or her. Moreover, contrary to your ego or her. Contrary to individual, merges togetherness.
You got there? You couplehood sharing, good, relaxed. The true relationship of your life. Relationship based on partnership and a lot of little ego.
I mate for life we got there.
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